Over the years, challenges and experiences make us stronger than we used to be in the past. Bouncing back from the loss of a loved one or overcoming a tough life obstacle are part of the many battles we all have to deal with at some point. However, there are people who just roll with the punches life throws them with almost effortless ease, and I just can admire them! There was a time where I read through a considerable amount of self- helps books, looking for ways to face difficult circumstances, overcome hard moments and I felt that I could not find the right steps to reach those goals.
This was until I start hearing the word resilience so frequently that I had to read about it, today I understand that being resilient is a characteristic that each person can be learned and developed. So, I stopped looking for self- help books that taught me a few important things about this great factor we all know should build up, but rather chose to change it from a conscious decision to a way of living, being resilient for me is something you and only you choice as your lifestyle. Keep in mind that resilience style is to do what you have to do and then, move on; here are some tips I keep practicing in order to accomplish a heavier resilience status, hope they can help you as well.
Focus on pumping up your positivity, especially in tough situations
One of the great characteristics of resilient people is their ability to experience both negative and positive emotions even when they are going through difficult or painful situations. They mourn losses, endure frustrations and more but they also encourage themselves to find redeeming potential in most challenges. This ability makes a lot of sense, because if you were to react to a hard or stressful moment of your life by thinking it was the worst time you have ever lived, then it will seem as such. So, if you want to build up a true resiliency level it will be essential for you to find some silver lining in even the worst circumstances; it is absolutely ok if you see and acknowledge the bad moment you are experiencing, however strive to find a way to also see the good will help you to remain positive and feel less overwhelmed, thus you become more resilient.
Live to learn lessons
“when you have a negative experience, focus on the positive lessons you can learn from it”. What a great quote! And the truth is that the more you can leverage your challenges and opportunities to grow and evolve as a person, the more resilient you will become; it is about to truly understand that pain comes to all of us at some points of our lives, and when a tough situation arises, there is no need to waste your energy on finding who is to blame, not to asking why me? or what is worst, feeling like a victim. Embrace a new attitude, ask yourself what you can do differently next time you face a hard situation in order to have better results; this is what resiliency is about.
Stay connected with someone supportive
I have always been a fruitful relationships believer, for me nurturing relationships with family as well as friends is a key aspect that absolutely helps me when I am going through hard times. A support structure is one unifying factor that characterizes most of the resilient people out there, all you will need is someone who is happy and proud to see you succeed and is willing to help you to achieve your goals, in my case an amazing group of friends just works wonder in my journey to become an even more resilient person.
Open up your heart
Do good to make other people feel good. Studies have shown that being of service to others is a powerful way to stoking resilience, how does it work? Serotonin, which is the neurotransmitter associated with feeling of happiness and well- being, is used more efficient by people that have engaged in an act of kindness. The combination between acts of kindness and serotonin boosts the happiness effects on you; this totally changes those negative feelings that you might tend to remember when you are mistreated, so having a reminder of the many times you have been treated as well as have made other people feel good can certainly help cancel out negativity.
Take good care of yourself
Healthy habits, a regular exercise routine are fantastic ways to achieve a good health levels; they are foundational to mental as well as emotional resilience. On the other hand, keeping active and eating well play a huge role in your optimal physical condition, but you also need to pay attention to your mind; stress is one of the most typical diseases we are experimenting these days and by extension of it we can have a lasting impact on our mood and the way you react to really stressful situations. When I refer to take really good care of yourself so you will be a more resilient person, I mean that taking mental breaks and relaxation can contribute to decrease stress chemicals in your organism, thus this reduces the chances to become overwhelmed and reactive.